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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope none of you OP bashers ever complain about anything in your life ever. I guarantee you every single one if you has a better standard of living than 90% of the people on this planet. There is always someone who is worse off than you. if the rule is you can't be sad about anything if you are richer than someone else, don't ever be sad.[/quote]

Tell that to OP[/quote]

You miss the point. By this logic nobody except the poorest person in the world should ever complain or feel sad about anything. If you can't see how ridiculous that is, I can't help you.[/quote]

There's feeling sad, and then there's accepting reality and reframing your options.  OP doesn't seem to be good at the latter part.

People all over the world make do with much less.  Everyone except the richest people in the world has to make trade offs.  OP is not special in that regard.[/quote]

Jfc you must make a terrible friend[/quote]

I don't know why you would say that.  My friends and I have all commiserated with each other throughout life's challenges with houses, kids, marriage, etc.  AND we also help each other see the bright side, look at things from a new perspective, and work through possible options when we have problems. It's what friends do![/quote]

Oh so when your friend has marriage problems, you say, "People all over the world have marriage problems. No marriage is perfect.  You are not special in that regard."

Or are you just an a-hole to people online?[/quote]

Kind of...?  I do think it's important for people not to hold up their marriage to a perfect ideal that may not be realistic.  People are not perfect, they change over time, there are different stressors when kids come into the picture.  Everyone has different strengths, think about what the positives are, and how you can work on the negatives, think about whether staying married is better than getting divorced, etc...

What I don't say: Well if you can't have the perfect fairy-tale marriage, then just give up, you are shut out of the marriage market.[/quote]

You say "kind of" because you don't say that in person, but you can say it here as you are hiding behind your anonymity and that be somehow makes your appalling behavior ok.[/quote]

I just told you what I said, and I would say it to a friend or to OP.  I don't think it's appalling behavior to try to help someone see that they still have choices even though their choices may be more limited than before and they are sad about it.[/quote]

You sound like an insufferable person[/quote]

Okay.  Well, I am just a person who made trade offs when I bought a townhouse close in, because like 99% of people, I had a budget to work with.[/quote]

What is your point? I also bought a townhouse (not really close in) and had s budget to work with. I just don't feel particularly upset or angry about my income level and not being able to afford $1.2 million. I can also respond in a human way to someone upset about the market right now. I would be losing my mind if I was trying to buy now, no matter my budget.[/quote]

The point, as many people have stated, is that there are still houses OP can buy.  She is not "shut out."  She may be angry and sad, which is understandable, but she still has options.[/quote]

She has a goal for a particular type of house. At her age I can absolutely see how she feels shut out in terms of that goal. [/quote]

This is the dumbest comment on the thread.  By this measure, TONS of people in this area have been "shut out" for years.  Fortunately, some of them were able to adjust their goals and still buy a house.  If OP doesn't want to do that, fine.  But don't expect those of us who did settle for the possible rather than the dream to feel sorry for her.[/quote]

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