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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]6th graders aren't teens, they're kids. In fact, teens are kids as well.[/quote]

All correct, but none of it changes the fact that, as your child gets older, you cannot micromanage their lives the way you once did, including requiring them to stay friends with old friends - which was the issue in the original post here.[/quote]

Again, how is it micro managing? If a friendship truly falls through then ok, but I'm not going to let my kid just dump friends for stupid reasons. So kids who may have different interests can't be friends? If they were ever real friends they can be.[/quote]

Your post is EXACTLY micro managing friendships. You should have ZERO say in who they are friends with. ZERO, NONE, NADA. It doesn’t matter their reasoning or the consequences they may have afterwards. You are over-stepping and trying to soften blows and make sure no mistakes are made. And you wonder why so many kids/teens can not handle when things go wrong or when a mistake was made, etc… No grit, no autonomy, no learning from mistakes. Let’s make sure Mama steps in. [/quote]

You are probably the kind of parent who doesn’t check their child’s phone either.[/quote]

Hit a nerve huh? You realize how wrong you are so you deflect instead.

My kids as 6th graders never had a phone. Earliest was 7th for youngest. They are in 8th now and downtime is 10pm-3pm. 2 hour app time, no internet, restrictions set to clean and no downloading apps unless with a parent code. Oh and linked to my computer so if I need to read texts, they weren’t deleted. But I give them privacy, encourage face to face socialization, [b]and if they come for advice I look at the other side of the story and give unbiased encouragement and feedback[/b]. [/quote]

DP. You obviously favor the mean girls.[/quote]

LOL - so wait, first you were called out on how incorrect you were and you retort with saying I probably don't check their phone

I tell you exactly how I do watch and watched their phones.

Your new retort  to giving unbiased encouragement and feed back is now  "you obviously favor mean girls"

Lady, you win.  You are so right. I am so wrong for those suggestions.  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:   Does that make you feel better? [/quote]

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