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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So DS 30's has finally gone into therapy to work on himself, but now he is basically blaming me and my marriage problem/fighting, my religion that I forced on him, my homeschooling, my house rules, etc. All these things caused his mental problems and unhappiness according to his therapist. I have apologized if I contributed but there is not much to be done now. He wrote me a letter about it. It's depressing have all this blame hurled at me, I can't change the past and I wasn't a perfect parent - but we did our best and I thought he had a fairly happy childhood, much better than DH and I. I tried to give him the childhood I wanted as a kid. It's causing me to feel down. No one can hurt you like your kid.[/quote]

Those things sound like they could easily impact him.  You don't think marriage issues/fighting impact kids?  You don't think homeschooling, depending on how you did it and if it was what he wanted, could impact him?  You sound all about you, not him.  [/quote]

So what? He needs to work it out with his therapist. He can't fix and would not have any interest in his parents life anyway. He is just laying the blame.[/quote]

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