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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes at this thread. Never get married fellas![/quote]

Yikes at this thread. Never give up your job to stay home, ladies! You need to look out for number one. [/quote]

[b]Well, the problem is, the SAHM role does not get enough respect. [/b] Think of the myriad jobs a SAHM does and consider all the people you hire to replace what a SAHM does.  I sometimes feel as though the feminist movement eliminated SAHM as a choice for women in that the concept of alimony seems to have gone away.  IMO this role should be a viable option for a man or a woman and it should be protected under the law.  A woman or man dosesn't stay home with the kids without the consent of the other partner.  That was a choice that partner also made, and the consequences of one partner out of the workforce should not be a burden only that one person has to bear.[/quote]

People always say this. How you you say it with a straight face, when SAHMs get alimony, [b]while WOHMs (who statistically do many of the things SAHMs do, while also working) get nothing[/b]?  [/quote]

Exactly. Once the child is in school what's the purpose of a woman staying home all day? To cook and clean? I don't get it, it just sounds like pure laziness to me. It's all good until the husband leaves or wants a divorce and then they complain about not having a career. Smh.[/quote]

You know, most children come home at 2 or 3pm from school: are they supposed to play video games or not do any after school activities? Most jobs require overtime, including low paying. And it's hard to go back into job market after employment gap. But in general  as a SAHM who worked part time I agree there is no point to stay at home 100%

To me it's much more enjoyable to be in the office now vs being SAHM. And WAY easier. Particular when there are several kids each with their own interests and after school activities and you feel like a free driver without any life of your own[/quote]

Yes, I do know. I am a working mother. My son never got out of school at 2pm, and he was in an aftercare program when his school day was done. I adjusted my work schedule so that I could pick him up every day while he was in elementary school. I never had an employment gap, my ex-husband and I both worked. I couldn't imagine just being home all day not working or engaging with other people. Where is the fulfillment in that? [/quote]

If you have kids in travel sports you can't just offload them in daycare. I was engaging with coaches, other parents when I had to be around for my child's training after school. But it's what both of us agreed and a luxury for most[/quote]

Travel sports as you say are a luxury, and most of us would agree an unnecessary one. But why on earth did you see "engaging with coaches and other parents" a viable use of your time? It wasn't as important as you thought it was. It would have been smarter for you to stay engaged in the workforce, or at the very least have some kind of [b]needlepoint shop on Etsy or something[/b].[/quote]

Your condescending ass got owned in the next post, was amusing to see[/quote]

Ooooh, BURN. You sure showed me. Boy was my face red after your scolding. PP didn't mention her little part-time RE management gig in her initial post. She was mostly telling off working parents for "offloading kids in daycare" and her superior need for her to tell the coaches what their job needed to be for Brayden , Jayden and Caden to excel at lacross. Even she agreed it was a luxury the lower classes wouldn't enjoy.

But thanks for your input![/quote]

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