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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do. [/quote]

Not from what I've heard from women who are over 50.  My sis in law had lots of options and these guys came on strong with marriage proposals way too fast for her liking.  Her impression was that they are desperate to remarry at a certain age.[/quote]

This. The issue is that most divorces are initiated by women and most divorced women are more ready and willing to be alone than men. This gives them an alternative to latching in the the first warm body that comes along— they are not only willing to be alone but many divorced women appreciate that aspect of divorce more than anything else. You know the trope about husbands who become another child? It’s based on a real dynamic where everyone in the family is dependent on the wife/mother who must be hyper-efficient and productive to make it work. Divorce with shared custody, or divorce as an empty nester, offers these women a chance to be self-focused and free fir the first time in years.

Meanwhile, these men who played helpless for years to get their wives to handle everything run out to try and find some other woman to fill that job. When they find one, they have not “rebounded.” They have failed to grow or regain independence. It’s sad.

Divorce is not and should not be a race to see who remarries fastest. That’s not the goal for many women who are divorcing, in fact it’s counter-productive.[/quote]

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