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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am mildly Team OP, but 12 days is really a ton of time away from a 4 and 6 year old. I wouldn’t do it, even though OP clearly made careful arrangements to make sure the kids had fun activities and MIL was not overburdened. MIL is ridiculous for canceling 3 days before the trip. That’s just awful.

The thing I find most shocking about this situation is that OP and her DH were going to pay the MIL for babysitting. I’ve never heard of that, and I grew up lower income and am now UMC. Is that actually a common thing? No grandparent I know would accept money for watching grandkids, though it’s very common for kids to either have parents move in with them or to pay for assisted living costs. I found it jarring that OP’s DH thought this plan was good because it was a money making opportunity for his mom. [/quote]

Why is that jarring? 
His mom doesn’t work and she lives off social security. It’s a personal decision to do so, not health related. She’s in her early 60’s. We will definitely be taking care of her in retirement and old age due to no savings and we help but it’s just one way she can also make money for travel, etc. We pay for a lot of her travel to visit family but we also have our own expenses and can’t pay for everything she wants. [/quote]
I just think the dynamic where you are treating her like an employee is bizarre. If you have money and she needs money, you help her out without asking for her to work for you, I’d think. [/quote]

Agree. It is extremely bizarre for an adult to treat their own parent like a household employee like this. Very disrespectful to your MIL. 
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