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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's flat out depressing. I feel like I failed my child and I am not sure what else could have been done but all those years of striving for excellence, working so hard, dong so many ECs, choosing the hardest classes possible to impress colleges - it was all for nothing.   With a virtual perfect academic record and a host of passionate ECs, he's rejected/wl everywhere he really wants to go.

He is in a safety schools that literally the class clowns get accepted to.   I'm so sick of talking to people about it, everyone in our community assumed he was going to a T5 school - he is practically famous for being so smart - like photographic memory genius smart and they ask me about it constantly.   They cant conceal their shock when I tell them the options. I cant deal with the reactions anymore.[/quote]

Excuse me, mom, but what do you mean that YOU failed your child? Were you sitting on the admissions committee at top 5 schools, sabotaging his applications? Genuinely curious as to what role you think you played?[/quote]

Well, in retrospect, maybe I should have hired a college coach, maybe I should have researched the connected summer programs that apparently the well connected know to do (but I only heard about after really getting into the admissions process), this will sound terrible but being 100% factual on the application was likely a mistake. After recen[b]tly seeing studies on the numbers of white families declaring URM[/b] on applications and the boost it gives, and/or the activity embellishment I now see goes on in the common app, it's resets the baseline.   As an international student said and stuck with me- "it astonishes me that in the US, the most competitive college system in the world, they do "holistic" reviews which are totally unverified and essentially rely on the honor system". It was the right thing to do but my child was a pretty strong comparative disadvantage as a result.[/quote]

What studies? 
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There are studies where white families declare they are URM  - the families admit to it? Would love to see the cite.[/quote]

My DC’s friend lied about race/ethnicity and got into an Ivy this year. So yeah people lie about all sorts of things and since no one cares to verify anything it seems to work[/quote]

That's not data, that's one point.[/quote]

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