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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a woman.  When I was 19-24 I dated significantly (10+ years) older. I had serious unaddressed and untreated trauma and was living hand to mouth.

In hindsight I recognize the profound power imbalance - I hardly knew anything about adult life and lacked savvy and sophistication in so many ways.  There’s an “ick” factor when I consider what these men were attracted to in me.  Why was a 36-year-old lawyer more interested in a 20-year-old cocktail waitress (me) than a professional woman closer to his age?

It’s exploitative and weird - I don’t care what any man says to justify it. [/quote]

+1  This.  Every young woman I know who dated significantly older men was damaged to start with and more damaged by the relationship.  If the younger party is 27+, IDGAF.  But 30 year old men trying to date 19 year olds, late thirties men trying to date 20-something women . . . something is always off on both ends. [/quote]

+2. I dated a guy 13 years older at 21. Thought it was totally consensual and it WAS. But I was messed up and he knew it. When I got healthier and grew up I was appalled. So basically many women who were once those women have pointed out in retrospect that they realized those relationships were very unhealthy. The older guys knows this, as he has been around long enough to hear women talk about this and to know that culturally we all think its incredibly creepy. [/quote]

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