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[quote=Anonymous]OP it is pointless to take advice from SAHMs who don’t understand your situation. You have already heard from many working moms who are telling you to either outsource or hammer things out with your spouse. Getting that balance right can feel quite overwhelming, and it’s always a work in progress up until it just suddenly ends because the kid is older or things shift at work.

I will just add that the first years of a child are the hardest on a marriage, around years 2-3 is often when people report a lot of stress. Pregnancy and nursing is a time that many women, SAH or WOH, feel like they are having an experience the husband simply can’t understand. And when you get 2 years in the tiredness and frustration adds up. Just keep in mind this is temporary and the feeling that you are drowning in things undone will pass. With it will go the resentment at your spouse. I fully understand where you are coming from and honestly would be very frustrated with my spouse if he 1) did not want me to get a lower paying job but 2) sat on his butt reading a newspaper or playing a video game while I worked from 6:30 AM to midnight with no time for myself. I get it. Having a family and a career means sacrifices from both people, and getting the balance right for your family takes time.[/quote]

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