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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Selfishness is EXACTLY what it is.  My child sat as a ward of the state for years more than was necessary because neither

birth parent or extended family was willing to relinquish custody and release the child for adoption.  Nor did they ever visit or provide support.  Women who cannot face the reality that they are unable to meet their child's basic needs and seek a better life for that child are the definition of selfish.   There is an interim societal position between the evils of past coercive practices and the emphasis on biological family preservation that exists now.[/quote]

There are plenty of toxic foster situations as well- and adoptions where the child's needs were never meant. So, this is probably not a  good argument. How about resources  to help families,  period?[/quote]

Precisely.  So many of these adoptees feel entitled to other peoples children because they have more money and more stability.  Cue Georgia Tan.  No.  Preying upon vulnerable people and beating them down psychologically so that you can take their babies from them is not benevolent to anyone, including the baby who is forever severed from his kin.

As a PP said, abuse and neglect are totally separate issues.  I could link bomb this whole thread with news stories about abusive adopters.  I am still so haunted every day about the white couple who considered themselves saviors of their black adoptive children (who had loving, stable kin who wanted to adopt but were denied) who murdered all of the children in a suicide off the cliff.  Those women were SO convinced that what they were doing was so benevolent and selfless.

Some adopters here are attacking those of us who are showing OP the coercive and immoral aspects of the adoption industry because they cannot for a minute allow themselves to face the truth that they might have actually stolen someone else’s baby.  Someone who desperately wanted her baby.  They can’t even handle the term “first mother.”  They have to see the woman as a temporary uterus; only they are allowed to be called “mother”.  It’s truly Handmaid’s Tale stuff.  [/quote]

Your comments have nothing to do with adoption.  There are also  women  who choose to  place their children and have zero interest in parenting.[/quote]

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