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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This entire thread makes me thankful, not because I am a SAHM, but because I am confident that the choice I made was the best for our family.  One of my sisters works outside of the home full time.  The other works part time.  I am at home full time.  My best friend works full time.  None of us are "selfish".  We all made decisions based on what works for our families.  If you are one of the posters ranting about how horrible working moms are for leaving their kids all day, or how lazy and unmotivated SAHMs are, I can only assume that your passion comes from being completely unsure of the choice you made.  Otherwise, why would it be so important to you?  Why on earth would you feel the need to justify your decisions about the way you are raising your children to a bunch of strangers on the internet?

I am fine with the SAH vs WOH debate.  I think as mothers it's important that we constantly reexamine our decisions.  But you don't have to bash people who choose differently than you do in order to debate the point. For those of you who SAH....unless you are very lazy, you do not spend all day with your kids.  You are (or should be) busy keeping the house clean, cooking, grocery shopping, planning, paying bills, managing budgets, volunteering...all the day-to-day stuff that comes with managing a home.  When both parents work outside the home, those jobs are shared.  When one parent is at home full time, most (if not all) of the home management should fall to the person at home.

And for the WOHM....if you feel the need to defend yourself about working full-time, then it's likely you are working too many hours.  If you are comfortable with your work/life balance, then you aren't going to feel the need to justify your decision over and over again.  Those of us who have been parents for a while (my oldest is 23) know that there is no pefect answer.  We are all doing the very best we can for our children.  And for many moms, working outside the home IS the best thing for their children.  For some, there is no choice.  Their children have grown accustomed to eating.  And their salary pays the bills.  For others, it's not as much about the money as it is the need for fulfillment outside the home.  A happy, healthy working mom is much better for her kids than is a miserable SAHM.

For some of us staying at home is less of a choice and more of a necessity.  My husband is former military and now works for the federal government.  We move every 3-4 years and always have.  It would be difficult, if not impossible for me to  have a career simply because of all the moving around.  Plus, my husband works insanely long, unpredictable hours and travels quite a bit.  Logistically, my staying at home makes life easier for all of us.  And I love staying at home, so it's a perfect arrangement.

Stop and think about it.  The only reason this is such a heated topic is because there is so much insecurity on both sides.

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Finally, a sensible person!  Would you please be my friend???[/quote]

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