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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women don't realize that they don't have to do a lot of the things they do. Cut back on stuff you really don't like to do. [/quote]

Okay and how about men meet us halfway and do things that do need to be done?

Problem solved. [/quote]

Have you considered that what YOU think is "things that do need to be done" really need to be done?  What happens if they, in fact, don't get done?

Example:  the baby's diaper needs to be changed.  What happens if it doesn't get changed?  The baby starts to cry.  Of course, you have pre-empted your spouse by changing the diaper before that happens.  What if you had waited?  Would your spouse really have sat there on his duff letting the baby cry and cry?

And then this ... is your husband picking up duties that you have not considered?  I get it, you're all about you and your load.  But, honestly, doesn't he have a load, too?

I am a woman posting this, not some man.  I admit that I think most of the woman posting here are snowflakes.  [b]None of what I've read seems unusual or out of line for a wife and mother to do.[/b][/quote]

You just showed everyone your hand with this last line. The fact that you specified ‘wife and mother’ says it all. You don’t think it’s unusual or out of line for a wife and mother to do…but no mention of ‘husband’ or ‘father’. Why do they get a pass? Is it because you think these tasks should automatically fall on the wife and mother? Why is that?

You’re part of the problem and it’s views like yours that perpetuates the problem further. If you were objective, you would’ve phrased it as ‘spouse and parent’ or even ‘adult and parent’. [/quote]

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