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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am married but fantasize about freedom and divorce. I have two kids and love them to pièces. They are why I am still here. I have my own money, retirement and kids are set with their college funds, all thanks to me. Husband is not of much use and expected me to be taken care of 24/7. I have stopped this nonsense. I sleep in my own bed. I do my thing with my girlfriends. 
Frankly I don’t understand why a financially independent woman would ever want to get married. There’s nothing in it for her.
I caved to family pressure (I’m an immigrant from a conservative family). They wanted me married and I did. I’m now miserable but trying to keep a smile on my face. Not sure how long I’ll be able to keep  up with the pretense.[/quote]

Why don't you divorce once the kids are independent. Start planning it now, that always helps. My friend rented a big storage to start putting stuff inside for another place. Many women have to stay for finances or retirement because that's a big hit in divorce. That's the only thing I can think of that's keeping you. Sucks I know, but many women in that situation. And yes many have good jobs, but divorce is a big change. Especially if you're over 40.[/quote]

Im getting organized. I’m worried about my kids and their reaction. I also feel guilty.
Husband is selfish and doesn’t consider their needs at all. I do all the driving, kids’ medical and dental appointments, find tutors for the kids when needed, find sports and activities, pay the bills, find handymen etc for the house, do the budgeting, do and monitor our financial investments, attend the teachers meetings and conferences and on and on…. He is there physically but completely disengaged. He makes less than me. He has a PhD. He is lethargic and has no drive. He used to make me laugh at least. Not anymore. He has ED and I haven’t had good sex in 11 years. He wants me to give him handjobs because he can’t get it up. Should I get going?

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