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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, it IS common sense that a person who has been unemployed for 10 or more years will probably have a hard time finding a job.

So if a man suggests that his wife SAHMs or oks it when she brings it up, he should probably be ok with her doing it forever. Or at least make sure she understands from day 1 that being unemployed will only last for a short time so she getter keep her skills and contacts up.[/quote]

+1 Couples need to discuss in advance the timeframe for SAH and not make assumptions one way or the other.  When DH and I had this discussion I told him that I was only willing to SAH if I could SAH permanently (unless or until *I* wanted to go back).  I was not willing to put my career on hold for a decade or so and then have to go backwards or play catch-up, and it would not be reasonable to expect me to be able to magically pick up right where I left off.  DH was not willing to commit to me SAH forever, so I stayed in the workforce and we share house and kid duties more or less equally.[/quote]

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