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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is super helpful because I wondered if I was the only one who had a sexless marriage. My DH and I haven’t  had sex since Dec 2019. I am 48 and honestly, look about 30 even though I am not as svelte as I used to be. I do like to active while my DH does not. He is 49 and as ZERO sex drive. He says it gives him too much anxiety to think about sex because he doesn’t like the shape he is in. I don’t want to shame him so after a few times of telling him that I think he is still attractive and he actually cried, I have encouraged him to talk with a counselor about his body image (he had an issue with anorexia when he was in his late 20s). He is a wonderful father, a kind, loving husband and at the same time, I don’t know if I can go through another year without sex. Plus, I feel like I must be giving off some kind of Mrs. Robinson vibes because at least 3 guys in their 20s/30s have randomly hit on me in the last few weeks (one while shopping at CVS, one at hardware store and one at a garden center- not places where I was dressed up or anything!) I know my menopausal hormones are in overdrive and don’t emotionally or intellectually  want to have an affair (I honestly do not know how anyone has the energy to keep all that stuff a secret- I am a horrible liar.) At the same time, my body is screaming “I have needs!” ... guess I will just have to keep myself satisfied and also rehash old memories...[/quote]

PP I’m a divorced guy and it sounds like you need to give your dude a reality check.  Your situation sounds untenable and being all sensitive etc is fine but I can assure him that him that the alternatives (divorce or affair and divorce) are really not a big deal. [/quote]

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