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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems like many people are confusing wedding with family reunion. Yes it’s great to see family and all the cousins babies friends plus1s and anyone else who wants to show up. BUT a wedding is about two people getting married and considerably expensive. It’s their choice not yours. [/quote]

That is kind of an interesting perspective.

I never really thought about it as being about the two of us.  The marriage is about the two of us, for sure.  We invited people to the ceremony because people wanted to come and see us get married.  We had a reception because a lot of people were flying in or driving a long way, and it seemed kind of crappy not to at least feed them after the ceremony.  Maybe the wedding is about the two people getting married, but the reception is for the people who came out to be with you.  It isn't about everyone you know trying to give you this special, magical day.  [/quote]
OK Kim Kardashian, everybody doesn’t have thousands or even millions of dollars to invite and pay for hundreds of all of their friends and relatives. And it’s really asinine that you would not admit that, realize that, or take that into consideration when talking about other people’s’  plans for, YES, THEIR special day !
Guess what? It’s a wedding it’s just that it’s a wedding it’s one of event, it’s not a lifetime and if you judge a lifetime of familial relationships 
over one event that your behind is not paying for that says more about you than it does about the couple.[/quote]

I guess you can see your family how you want to.  I felt grateful that the people who came wanted to be present.  
I didn’t feel entitled to have everyone I know jump hoops to make my SPECIAL DAY all about me.  It’s just a different perspective.  [/quote]
Are you stupid? It’s about budget everybody does not have the budget to have all the kids in their family at their wedding what is it that you weren’t understanding about that?

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It’s rarely about budget.  If it were about budget, then the kids wouldn’t be invited to the family reunion either.   
IME, the more expensive a wedding is, the less likely it is that children are invited.  [/quote]
Are you smoking meth? a wedding is not the same as a family reunion are you kidding me just one person or just one couple throw do not throw a family reunion. [/quote]

Lol...I think I’m a bit more country than you guys are :).  I don’t think I have ever received a line item bill for my part of a family get together, and I’ve never issued one when I’ve hosted.  
I’ve also been to a number of weddings where people other than the couple contributed food and drinks, (typically kids invited), and ones where people were expected to show up with envelopes full of hundreds (typically no kids invited).  
It has NOT been my experience that people aren’t inviting kids because they can’t afford it.  [/quote]

Our family reunions are at two beach houses and involve catered dinners, so yes, everyone pays the portion full r their family unit. We’ve also rebated cabins at a mountain resort and ate at the restaurants in the lodge.

If it was a BBQ at a public park like yours, sure, I’d happily cover the bill myself. [/quote]

Ahh...yes.  It makes sense why you don't have enough money to invite your only cousin's child to your wedding then.  
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I literally have a dozen cousins, all of whom have at least two kids.

Anyway, I actually *did* invite kids to my wedding. All family members and kids were invited. I just find your premise of family reunions being something that one person pays for laughable. But again, if your "family reunions" are just in someone's backyard, sure. We have big, vacation-style reunions at nice beach houses and resorts. Not all of us count dinner at the K of C hall to be an event worth mentioning. [/quote]

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