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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ just divorce.  Set your wife free.[/quote]I don't have her chained up.  She is free to leave any time she likes.  Or she can stay and deny her reality.  Denial is working for her so far.[/quote]

You're the one who's doing something she doesn't know about.  She needs to know in order to make a decision.  She might or might not divorce you.  [/quote]

Stop with this total nonsense! A sexless wife KNOWS that a healthy normal libido man (whom she rejects) absolutely 100% guaranteed take to the bank IS getting sex elsewhere. There are no secrets here, quit making stuff up. [b]She's made her decision[/b] to stay married. End of story.[/quote]

I really love how you consistently detail what other women think.  It's so classically misogynist to be a man who is like, "no, I know what she's thinking".  People on this thread are saying, "you never know what the woman is thinking until you tell her the info and she tells you with her own mouth what she thinks/wants."   But, you keep insisting that you are the one that really knows what all sexless women are thinking and that if they're not thinking what you think they should be thinking, they're wrong and stupid.

Honestly, if I had a penny for every man like you who mansplained me what women are or should be thinking, I would be a freaking billionaire.

[/quote]It's not about mansplaining what women think.  It's about me giving her credit for having a minimum amount of common sense.  As for telling her what I'm sure she has figured out if she even cares to give it a minute of thought.  Back when I was trying to talk to her about this, I was very clear that I will not accept this as my situation going forward for the rest of our marriage.  I asked her if she expected me to just end my sex life like she has ended hers and she sheepishly said, no.  But no further comments from her.  Even those words shouldn't have to be said to an intelligent person, and she is very intelligent, but I wanted to be fair to her about how I felt and the implications of this if it continued.  She really just does not care.  And I do kind of feel sorry for her because, whatever happened to make her lose interest, it's not her fault.  It just happened.  But not seeing it as a problem or wishing to explore solutions is something I blame her for.

" But, you keep insisting that you are the one that really knows what all sexless women are thinking"
So OK, now I'll piss you off, as if I cared.  Why do you think women are so special that we should all give them a pass for being so clueless?  I hold women in higher regard than you do if you really claim that a woman who cuts her H off from sex has no idea how that effects him or what will likely happen in her marriage down the road.  Unlike you-call it mansplaining if you like-I'm fairly certain that nearly every woman with a normal libido husband, where that woman cuts him off from sex forever knows exactly what to expect.  She should know men well enough and especially know her husband well enough to know just how much he enjoyed sex with her in the past and that he isn't just going to accept his new situation that she decided to on without any agreement from him.

Woman in general are not that naive, stupid, or clueless.  They really aren't.  To be certain, my wife is not that dumb.  If I cut a woman off from sex, I'd damn well expect her to get it somewhere else and my only surprise would be if she didn't.  Why do you suggest that women are any different.[/quote]

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