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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I kept my maiden name because I was well established career-wise and my last name was part of my identity.  Those reasons didn’t apply to my children.[/quote]

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I don’t know why people are so hung up on this. They’re names. I am my own person, my children are their own people. Because we don’t share a name, doesn’t mean they are any less my children. [/quote]

Not to you, but it sounds like you're the nanny or they're your step-kids if you fill out a form.  Without going into details about my former job, I used to have to ask for birth certificates to prove that moms were actually the mothers of their children if they didn't share the same last name.[/quote]

Nope, didn’t happen, or in providing the birth certificate, they were providing proof of both parents, as father is listed. The provision of certificate was probably always required, regardless of name.

Many of my friends from different cultures don’t share family names, nor do many of my professional friends. It’s really not that big of a deal.

As it is, we’ve travelled extensively with DD, who does not share my name. I’ve never been asked to provide proof I’m her mother.

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If both parents are present, it is not usually a big deal, but [b]as child trafficking becomes more of a problem, the mom and child having different names sticks out to certain professionals (like passport professionals, feds,  some school admins during registration, etc.).[/b][/quote]

I've never been asked by passport professionals, feds, or school admins to prove my maternity.  Sounds like you're making this up, along with your unsupported claims that 1) child trafficking is increasing, and that 2) this is the reason for increased documentation requirements.[/quote]

This is too funny.

State Department PP here. This literally never happened to me even once in the U.S. or while traveling with my children in dozens of countries throughout the Americas, Europe and Asia. Not once.

FYI for those of you who have never seen a passport: the mother’s and father’s full name are spelled out in the child’s passport. This is not an issue anywhere except PPs overactive imagination.

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+1. Another active traveller here.  I’ve never had an issue with my kids having a different  last name ever.   In fact in many parts of the world, it’s not normal at all for women to take their husband’s names.[/quote]

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