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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You do have a right to change your mind, AND she has a right to her opinions and choices. Your decision is no more valid than hers. You also behaved badly by not being up front and communicating your needs and desires.

You have a right to not want more children but she also has a right to want more children. [b]It sounds like she wants another child MORE than she wants to be with you.[/b][i] Do you not want another child enough that it's worth losing your wife over? [/quote]

She says that her desire to have children started from before she even met me.  She knows that if she divorces me over this, there's a significant chance she may not end up having another child anyway but she keeps telling me this is beyond the desire to have another child, it's about the betrayal and feeling like I strung her along. [/quote]

I agree with her. It's the betrayal. Why didn't you just tell her right away? Why string her along for five years. Like a pp, this is just as bad as poking a hole in a condom. The same as having an affair, keeping a secret account of money stashed away, same as losing your job but still leaving the house every morning as if you still have it. It's dishonest and directly affects her. Plenty of couples disagree over their ideal family size but usually both are direct enough to talk about it, not keeping it hidden. Why do you even want to stay married to her anyway? You could find someone else who doesn't want anymore kids. Your be set. Don't kill her dreams any further -- let her go.[/quote]

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