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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what comes across loud and clear in all of this is that the only person whose feelings and desires you have been considering all this time is yours.  All I hear is me me me.

The inconveniences of having a baby--all on you. How difficult fertility treatments were --for you. that you're too old....Why can't she want what you want? your desire to get your own way lead you to deceive her for years, knowing how she felt about things. You didn't care about her feelings, even though you knew what they were. You wanted to run out the clock on her and make her accept your decision .You never considered her feelings--how devastated she would feel not just about the kid, but also about your betrayal. You still can't see it, even now.

Finally, you haven't once expressed any sorrow or sadness for your child--that he will suffer because of a divorce. Again, it is all you, and no one else matters. Even your half hearted bs "go ahead and do it but I won't support you" is all about you. You have to be true to *your* feelings but completely dismiss hers.

While I agree that someone should not be forced into being a parent, and while I am not sure I'd divorce over not having a second child, to me the real issue here is how profoundly self centered you are ,  to the point where you can not imagine much less empathize other points of view--and I would divorce over that. I find it odd that you really, still, don't get any of this and have to agree with pps who asked if you were on the spectrum. [/quote]

This.  Exactly.  100%.  I would not divorce over a spouse not wanting an additional kid.  But a spouse being this obnoxious, selfish and dismissive of my feelings about it?  Yes.  That is worth divorcing.  That is unforgivable and it’s impossible that the lack of empathy and concern is limited to this one issue.[/quote]

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