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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I think one of the issues at play here is that a lot of men decompress through sex and a lot of women don't.

And since, god knows, men are SO used to considering their experiences and needs as the "default" state and have very little experience even considering other POV, they find fault with women who don't decompress through sex, as if they are the abnormal ones who need to "get with the program" of normality.[/quote]

The problem is that women present themselves (falsely) as sharing the male "sex positive" POV while dating and early marriage. The "default" state of an active sex life is therefore seen as normal for both men and women.  Only later do these women reveal a different POV with low interest in sex. What you sarcastically call "get with the program of normality" then is really just continuity of the relationship as it was established at the very beginning.

So you think it's OK for women to change the rules later, and men should accept it? Fine, you can take that stance. Just be prepared for an equivalent rule change when you learn that the marriage is Open.[/quote]

Oh hi "Open Marriage" poster. Here you are again. You think that women losing their sex drive is some conspiracy against men, when it's a commonplace and extremely unfortunate side effect of life. Fine, go have your open marriage, if it works for you. Not everything is so black and white for everyone. That's what makes this issue in marriage so difficult to work through.[/quote]
Hi! No, I fully recognize the wives losing sex drive (for their husband) is NOT some conspiracy against men. Husbands should not take your disinterest personally, I certainly do not. Likewise, I hope you recognize that your husband's continued pursuit of an active sex life, either in or out of the marriage, is not some conspiracy against wives either. It's really not difficult at all.[/quote]

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