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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I don't want to discount how you feel at all, because your wife ought to make a better effort to explain things to you.  However, my husband also has a TS clearance and travels to places that he is only allowed to tell me about (in person, never over the phone, text, or email) now that we're married (and we usually can't even tell his parents where he is).  Sometimes he is off the radar for days, even weeks at a time.  Literally, once he was on a submarine and went completely dark.  He routinely travels to locations in Asia and it takes him many days to get back to normal after he returns.  His days there are long and stressful and when he sends a text saying he's back in his hotel and is crashing, I take it at face value.  However, I do so because I have never once been suspicious about what he's doing.  I generally know why he's going and where he's going, even if he has to be vague about certain details, even to me.  Loose lips sink ships and all that.  I found out one time when I thought he was in San Diego (he did start there) that he was actually on the USS Carl Vinsen staring at Osama Bin Laden's dead body.  I think all the people saying they always text/call, and your wife is being an absentee mother don't fully appreciate what she does (assuming that she really doesn't have a choice about her lack of availability, like my husband).  I don't think my husband is any less of a good dad when we don't hear from him for weeks because I know he'd much rather either be at home with us or be able to communicate with us but what he's doing doesn't allow it.  Honestly, if your wife was cheating on you, she'd probably do a better job to try to cover it up.  Like FaceTiming you saying she's going to bed minutes before she invites her co-worker into her room.  Again, the fact that you feel like this means your wife ought to do something to make you feel better, but if she seems present and engaged in your life when she's home, it's possible that her job really does limit her ability to communicate.[/quote]

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