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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's true. They don't.  The advice is for the couples who decide they do want to try and rebuild the marriage. [/quote]

The 'advice' includes actual recommendations for women to manipulate the legal system to stop a biological father from having contact with their child.

If a marriage to a cheating a hole is worth selling your soul for then whatever go for it I fuss. [/quote]
Much better for the kid to grow up in an intact family than to deal with a confusing visiting daddy situation and risk the breakdown of the family.  For the dubious pleasure of contact with biofather?

You know how women who get pregnant from affairs with married men are told, "you made your bed, now enjoy it"?  This is the men's version of it.  You sleep with a married woman, you risk not having access to your child.  Plus it's a rare man who gets a married woman pregnant with the intention of actually parenting the child.  Chances are, it's a combination of recklessness and stupidity on the part of both. [/quote]

These situations are messy enough. That said, the marriage counselor in the article is correct about severing relations with the other person. Often, the outside woman gets pregnant to have permanent ties with the man, and manipulate him forever. Best to cut that out and have a third party send a check for child support. Zero contact. Complete shut down.[b] If she wants her kid to have a father figure, she should have a good relationship with a man, who is unmarried, and move on. [/b][/quote]

I don't believe in abandoning a child to punish an AP.  It's not about her. It's about the baby, who needs and deserves a father.  [/quote]

What if the AP is married and the husband is willing to raise the baby as his own?[/quote]

Now we are talking. [/quote]

Doesn't matter if the AP has another man to be like a father figure to the child. Bio father has to stay away. Her child would be hurt less with no father in his or her life, than his kids from the marriage would be by the divorce that might come of it. Faithful spouse has been hurt beyond understanding. Lots of kids grow up without a father figure. How come this father figure thing does not seem to be an issue when single women adopt kids or lesbian couples adopt kids? All of a sudden then in those cases, it is ok?

That kid of the affair is only entitled to child support. [/quote]

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