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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Larla/OP, are you and your family middle class African Americans? If so, I can totally believe that everything you've described is real - "traditional" man who respects his wife's family money/earned wages, is hard on his son to be a good earner but soft on his daughter; the middle aged woman who has multiple college degrees but chose to stay at home with family rather than take on adult struggles; the close relationship between auntie/godmother and niece/goddaughter. It sounds 100% believable to me from that perspective. I know several people who have this exact family dynamic.

I'm still cracking up at "flipping vs. fixing up" detective. Also at the person who seems to think that $400,000 in cash plus a $400,000 house is not a lot of assets for a woman in her 80s.

As for what Larla should do, I think that it would be reasonable to give Mary several months to find a new place - say, until March? If the house is in DC, you will have to give written notice that she has to vacate, but your lawyer can tell you more about that. I don't think that you owe this person anything. Y'all might be family, but you are not required to provide her a free ride for the next 30+ years of her life. You are not responsible for anyone's choices but your own. If you are feeling especially generous, you could foot the bill for the deposit and movers to the new apartment, but that's as far as I'd personally be willing to go.[/quote]

Op here, 
At this point in sure if anyone recognized the family dynamic from my post, my identity is already out. Yes, The dynamic you described is pretty accurate .[/quote]

I'm the poster who has said four times now to evict Mary and move on and I knew you were black. I'm black too. Get your life girl. Mary should have used what she got to make her one.

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Yep.  I kind of saw this as well.  Your story sounds very similar to the story of my grandmother and great aunt. Also, maybe folks here don't think 800k in assets is a lot of money or considered wealthy, but most AA families would definitely consider that sum as wealthy, RICH even.[/quote]

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