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[quote=Anonymous]Hey Larla, REAL NP here (other than the post right above this).

I think your story is totally believable and that there is a LOT of projection going on on this thread. A lot of middle aged women projecting how they'll feel when their own moms die and how they would feel if they were cut out from a will. Coming from a pretty dysfunctional family I can see this happening and don't thinks its OMG SO UNUSUAL IT CANNOT POSSIBLY HAVE GONE DOWN THIS WAY. And I'm not African-American I just think there are a lot of privileged people on here to have such wholesome families that they literally cannot fathom something like this happening.

Personally I think Mary isn't your problem. I think your godmother was a little cruel in how she went about this honestly but at the end of the day Mary was her responsibility and as much of Roy's responsibility as he feels like taking on, maybe your grandmother's but not yours.

Mary has no debt, has a job, has $100,000 (at least) and two degrees with which she could find additional employment. There is a limit to how much we (responsible hard working family members) can be responsible for our lazy mooching counterparts. You are 25, and you are responsible for starting your life and not squandering what your godmother has given you. It is not that strange to be left the house of your great grandparents, and perhaps Thelma and her sister did discuss which member of the next gen should be granted the responsibility of a house with that much family history. Which is also perhaps why you are reluctant to sell it?

Regardless, you owe Mary nothing, morally or legally IMO other than time to get her affairs in order. I echo other PPs, come up with a reasonable deadline, communicate it clearly, in writing. Have its enforceability verified with an attorney and move forward. This could create some family drama for a couple years but it doesn't sound like anyone is going to be crying into their pillow other than Mary (and possibly Roy when she asks to move in with him!). Do this and never look back. What is the worst that happened? Mary never talks to you again? That doesn't seem like the worst thing in the world. [/quote]

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