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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Larla,

You are a classic example of someone spinning out a story to cover up the plot holes and the more you try to cover them up, the more complicated it becomes and the more you trip yourself.

For example, you describe Thelma's husband / Mary's father as someone who respected his wife's money as her own. Rather progressive thinking for that generation. Yet this is also the same man who, according to you, kicked out his 19 year old son from the family house while allowing his daughter to stay at home as daddy's little princess and indulged her and allowed her to be lazy and unfocused and unproductive. Which strongly implies a domineering, traditional and old fashioned man. You even admitted this yourself when you said: “He was quite "traditional" in that he firmly believed that it is the mans job to work.” Somehow that picture just doesn't gel.

Then you say Mary's father/Thelma's husband did have an active role in helping to build up the inheritance yet somehow still didn't consider it "his" money? For a couple, especially of that generation, who were married for quite some time that's a pretty unusual position to take. To also quote you from your recent post: "They simply took that relatively small sum of money added to it and invested it and then putting that into savings while still working. I believe originally it was supposed to be a retirement fund but then it became much more than that. my grandmother told me that for time they actually flipped houses and made a great deal of money on that and all the money they made they would reinvest."

Wow. So her husband now did add money to the family's investment portfolio and assets whereas you were previously claiming it was Thelma's money and he didn't consider it "his." Last of all, you tripped over using the term "flipped houses." "Flipping" houses is a recent trend. An old person of a previous generation would be very unlikely to use the term "flip." They'd use the term "fix up" houses. Further, the real estate dynamics in most of America, including in the DC area, through the 1990s, rarely made "great deal of money" flipping or fixing up houses for quick resale.

It was only really in the late 1990s that people started to make money off flips as gentrification and the real estate market both started to boom (And more so in the 2000s) and that's when the term entered into popular usage and you started seeing lots of people doing "flips" and making money off it.

In your first post you said: "The house is pretty nice, 3000 sq ft in a nice area (not too close in, but still close to everything)" but now you're saying it's just in a decent area? Sounds like you can't make up your mind what your story is meant to be or you're trying to backtrack when pointed out the inconsistencies in your hypothetical set up.

And, of course, I'm now laughing at your godmother/great aunt now having been left an orphan at age 20 and inheriting the family house which she presumably lived in for practically her entire life? What an amazingly convenient excuse for a young single unmarried woman owning a large single family house in the early 1960s! And she kept the house, too! She must have really eaten up the initial inheritance to pay the inheritance taxes, property taxes, heating bills, general upkeep on the house in her 20s when she couldn't really have been making much money or still in her studies (as any feminist will tell you, single women were paid far less then men in those pre-feminist days). By the way, you forgot to explain what happened to your grandmother's share of the house for she presumably inherited half of it, too? I'd also love to know how your godmother/great aunt's parents died. Both in the same year! Car accident? What was the tragedy?

By the way, I'm trying to figure out where the house is. 3,000 sqft was pretty d*mn big by 1960s standards for the median sqft for a 1950s/1960s house was 1,500 sqft. But we know the house must be older, for it belonged to your godmother/grandmother's parents. Probably pre-war, no? In the DC area, 3k sqft, pre-war, relatively close in area, still  in a "nice" area, well, then that house value is going to be a lot more than 400k. Even in Baltimore/Annapolis area it'd be worth more than 400k. Or maybe your great-granddaddy was a self-made man who built the house himself? Is that why it was so special that Thelma had to keep on to the house at age 20 even after both her parents tragically died so young and in whatever peculiar circumstances that caused their deaths?

Sorry, the picture just doesn't work out. Your lack of understanding of past generations and economic and real estate dynamics is coming through in the latest round of your storytelling. 
By the way, I found this in your first post:

“Currently, [b]Mary is not upset about the house, just surprised. She thought it would be split between her and her sibling, Roy. Roy is upset, thinking that he would buy out his sister and just sell the house[/b].”

Then you said many pages later: “[b]Roy knew all along that his mother wasn't leaving him the house[/b].”

In other words, you have been busted. And not only have you been busted, you tripped by saying Mary wasn't upset about the house, which makes no sense whatsoever given the subsequent posts and your claims that Mary is still holding on to the house at the moment and even moving into the master bedroom, instead of getting ready to leave. FYI you should have reversed the roles. Roy should have been the surprised one, not upset, while Mary should have been the upset one. That's the correct sentiments based on their circumstances as told to us (Mary the freeloader who expected to inherit, Roy the estranged son who barely stayed in touch with his mother). Learn to keep your story straight if you want to be successful in your next fictional thread.

FYI the funeral was 5 months ago, according to your first post. In real life, Mary and Roy would have been to the lawyers the day after the funeral, not five months later. The battle would be going on now.  The time for hand-wringing "oh my what to do" was a long time ago.

You’ve been a good troll. It was an entertaining thread for a while ;)

[quote=Anonymous]

No I'm not busted, because this is all true.  Sorry I didn't give you a complete financial breakdown of what money my godmother has and where as I'm not completely sure of that myself but she is quite wealthy.  I'm sure you had a great time doing all this research about what a woman could buy in the 50s and what they couldn't buy however that's not the case.  if you must know, my godmother's parents died when she was 20 and when my grandmother was 16. They left them the house which my godmother stayed in with my grandma, who only moved when she got married. when my godmother married her husband they just stayed in the house which then belonged to my godmother.  She was not independently wealthy in  that her and my grandmother came from a rich family, but they did both get money left to them and my godmother and her dh saved and  invested it and were  able to build it into a bigger nest egg. Her husband however, never took the money to be his own, he always remember the fact that their wealth through investments started out with her modest inheritance from her parents. 
 My grandmother is not wealthy, but she is well off as she was able to save her part of the inheritance to ended up buying another home which she has rented out over the years and has been saving that money too. 
I'm not sure why I have to explain this to you, it isn't relevant to the situation but since I have strangers on the Internet calling me a liar I guess I have to explain all the inner workings of my family.

As to your point about the house not being  particularly " remarkable",  I never said that it was, all I said is that it's about 3000 sq ft and it's in a decent area. And since we're already all the way off topic, I'm sure if that house had a number of repairs it would be worth even more.  That doesn't mean that it's not a great house it just wouldn't get as much as it probably would if it was a new build. [/quote][/quote]

I agree with the poster who thinks this story is fictional.

The odd thing about it is the extreme hate aimed at Mary. Wow, there is at least one poster who is absolutely gleeful at the idea of Mary being thrown out of her home. If the story is true, my guess would be it is one of Larla's parents who has some kind of grudge against Mary, maybe they've been jealous of Mary for some reason, and now is happy to see bad things happening to her. 
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