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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He "helps" with stuff and we are not equal partners. He's gained weight, let himself go. He constantly wears sweat pants or walks around in his underwear. He doesn't shave or even cut his finger and toenails regularly. He just doesn't take care of himself at all anymore and that is suuuuper unattractive. It wasn't always like this, I have let him know that it's unsexy for me but clearly he doesn't care about it enough to change.[/quote]

If he hit the gym, fixed his grooming issues, dressed to impress you and pitched in enough to be a real help to you would your feelings change?  Or is all this a convenient excuse?  [/quote]

Yes my feelings would change in a heartbeat. We didn't start out this way. He used to take care of himself and I do think it's more about the fact that he just doesn't care about himself anymore than the actual physical appearance side effects from that. I am not going to lie: I am not sex crazy. We have never been the couple that does it every day. But I definitely miss finding him sexy and I have tried to look past all of the issues but after almost 5 years just can't do that anymore. He doesn't even need to hit the gym or become a household wizz to be honest, it's mostly the grooming issues that ruin all attractiveness for me.[/quote]

But how old are you guys? I look at many other men near my age (45) & it's not pretty
And how busy are you guys? Kids, how many hours is the man working? Do you have date nights?

You should just tell him. He's dense & he's let himself go - just tell him
Give him a gift certificate to one of those man spas to salve his wounds? [/quote]

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