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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is definitely hurt. Even though she claimed in another post she doesn't care that much.

I would let my kids do the activity with their grandparents- unless it is truly dangerous and then let them know a parent needs to come along. I agree with others that they may be uncomfortable inviting you without DH,since he isn't interested, no invite for you.[/quote]

Sure, fine. That is true. To me, they've taken something I've loved, told me I didn't really "do" it, and are now using it to exclude me, when [b]it would be one of the **very few things***, other than sitting down to a meal,  that all of us could do together.[/b] Do you see? But I've realized that I am completely naive, they would never want to do it out of a shared love, but more to teach a social status and techniques from back in the day, that are no longer relevant. Secret handshakes if you will.

Could I get over it, yes. But their whole approach is soooo off-putting. Its like walking into a business meeting and the other person says, "Who the hell are you?!"  and proceeds only to talk about themselves and never even get to the goals of the meeting.

At one time, I thought there would be some connection over a shared love of the activity EVEN IF the way I participated wasn't fancy enough for them...Its not like its soccer! I am struck by the fact they've taken something we could have had in common, and something that could have been a meaningful bridge and shared activity with children, and made it into this.

So it turns me off so much that we simply will not be part of this. It would be a stretch for us financially, and our feeling is the money is best spent elsewhere.  I don't see my children as deriving ANY benefit from this activity, other than a chance to spend time with their grandparents. [b]There are plenty of other activities they can do together[/b], and I can't think of one other one that I wouldn't be fully supportive of. [/quote]

Well is it one of the only things you can do together, or are there a ton of other things you can do?

The more you write, the more I am perceiving this is a personal issue for YOU and YOU are the one who can't rationalize your anger at your ILs inviting your kids to participate with them. There was no mention of budget in your OP, and most of your later posts are contradictory. [/quote]

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