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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did the OP ever say that her kids were actually participating in full-on fox hunting? Maybe I missed it, but I think some of you are putting words into her mouth.

And I don't care how much "the horse always comes first" -- that is fine and understandable. There are less rude ways to go about it than leaving someone stranded in a barn for hours.[/quote]

They did not leave her alone at the barn. Even if these people are not nice they seem to be horsemen. Nobody with horses would leave someone they don't like back home at the barn unsupervised.

Liability, for one.

When so many elements of a story are laughably and demonstrably false don't buy the rest. [/quote]

You guys are actually making me more, not less, sympathetic to OP. My sister grew up doing the shoestring-equestrian thing, dressage in an urban setting, barn work to pay for it, etc.  I can see OP coming from a similar background and marrying into a family that identified strongly with Fox Hunting. Sets the stage for her thinking she has something in common with them, but they don't think she does and treat her shittily/ignore her, as described.  As she said, at first with them she didn't even really get what she doesn't get.

And now we have 5 or so PPs from the fox hunting world who think she's bullshitting because she doesn't understand the nuances, which is just what she said her ILs thought of her. Hmm.[/quote]

I am one of the PP's and you are missing the point. Almost everyone who is "horsey" is on a shoestring. Typically the horses have better accommodations, "clothes", food than the humans. That is just the nature of the sport.
The OP seems to be perpetuating a silly stereotype because it makes a better story and gets her attention but it doesn't ring true. [b]Safety and proper training of children in any equestrian sport is NOT a nuance. 
[/b]My DC sounds a lot like your sister, mucking stalls in any weather to support this hobby. That is the norm. And none of us said that we were actual fox hunters; just shared our knowledge about the sport.[/quote]

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