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[quote=Anonymous]I'm kind of an example of "what not to do" but there is a sort-of happy ending, so it's not cut and dry.

I met my husband in my late 20s, who when I first met, said he eventually wanted to get married and have kids.  I dated him for 5 years.  During that time I followed him to a different state and moved in with him, pressured him for commitment, he kept procrastinating, while my mom was freaking out trying to set me up with other guys.  I then I finally proposed.  I wanted kids after that, he stalled for a while, until finally he declared he was ready for kids.  We had our first when I was 35, and our first passed away from cancer.

Fast forward 5 years later, we have 2 wonderful amazing healthy kids.  However, I'm still hurt and feel resentful that he stalled for so long, on marriage and kids.  Thankfully we didn't have fertility issues, but I think that if we did, I would have been way too angry to stay with him.  He's a great dad, and I know he loves me, and I do love him and think he is a good person (just selfish at times), but there are times when I am ambivalent and wonder if I deserved better.

Maybe it wasn't the wisest decision for me to follow dh to another state and move in with him with no commitment for marriage.  But then we probably would have broken up, and I wouldn't have these awesome kids.  [/quote]

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