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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your little girl is grown up. People used to be married at 16.[/quote]

More than 120 years ago. Wake up. She is still a little girl[/quote]

They weren't any more mature or any different 120 years ago. They just had less education to complete. They got married because they wanted to have sex and they didn't have birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancies.  Marriage provided a framework to have sex and babies.

Sex is a developmental milestone.  It's a normal, healthy part of becoming an adult.  Puberty kicks in and then kids form relationships and then they have sex. Totally normal. Most kids have start having sex around 16-18.  The majority have sex by age 17.  [/quote]

Yes, and 1 in 5 girls under the age of 21 reports having been raped before the age of 21. By your line of reasoning , rape is also therefore " normal" .

For some balance: sex isn't just a physical act like learning to mechanically operate a car. Pass the driver's test and you have crossed a milestone into adulthood. Sex is something enjoyed once you are an adult, engaging in it does not make you suddenly and adult . And boy, if a teen thinks that will magically happen once they have sex, they are in for a big disappointment and a lot of confused emotions.

Sex  is a deeply intimate act and its for adults . I personally think if 33-79% of American teens are having sex by 17, the vast majority of them are not  having a  mature sexual relationship and a rewarding  sex life. From what I hear teens say, there is a lot of objectifying and peer pressure , and the same kind of stupid stuff we saw written on bathroom wall in HS, only now its on FB and instragram.

Kids need  to have a strong sense of themselves before becoming that intimately involved with another person. They also need to learn some respect for there personal boundaries . I think that having sex when your parents are down stairs is a sign of not having healthy boundaries. If your daughter was having sex at her job or in the school wouldn't you tell her its appropriate to find a private place ? Your house is not private when you are home.

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