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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do I care?  I care because it is an inhumane practice to do this routinely to newborn boys.

Do I raise it with you?  No.  But if it comes up, I will not sugarcoat my dismay.

How do I know?  Like others have said, when you've had kids you'll realize that at some point you see pretty much all your friends changing diapers in front of you or helping with potty training.  Other times, people mention it.

What happens then?  I will notice your son's stubby scarred penis and I will flinch. I will try not to do this noticeably for your sake because, what's done is done, and for all I know you may now be better informed and regret it (like my in-laws).  But I will feel sympathy for your child, just as I would if you mistreated him in another way.

I will think less of you.  I will wonder how you came to that decision, as an educated, smart woman, who I obviously share some values with or we wouldn't be friends.  I will feel a little sorry for you too.  Because you are either willfully ignorant and have followed what you perceive to be the fashion and had cosmetic surgery on your newborn boy, or you are delusional and have believed the very scant and disputed evidence on the topic without having done any full research into the cultural basis of this.

And then, I feel thankful that I wasn't railroaded into doing this, by a husband, by a doctor, by in-laws or by society.  I feel thankful that my boys each have their whole penis and that neither of them will feel bad about this as they get older.  I feel bad that at some point, be it 5 or 10, 15 or 20 years from now, when this waning practice is widely believed as archaic you will realize that you made the wrong decision, that you were on the wrong side of this issue and that you will regret it.  [/quote]

There are two things that are incredibly ironic about this post.

The first is that you obviously must take very special care not to befriend anyone Jewish or Muslim - on an off-chance that you might change their son's diaper.

The second is that the centerpiece of your post is all about your feelings, and you describe them as if they matter, as if they make a difference for anything.  They don't.  They aren't actually a proof of anything.  In fact, as you stand there, immersed in your thoughts and feelings, nothing really happens.  Who cares what you feel? Who cares what you think?[/quote]
 It is a beautiful example of complete self centered thinking.[/quote]

You're both nuts.  Do you understand how a thread here works?  Let me spell it out for you.  The OP (that is the original poster) asks a question.  In this case it was "Why do you care what I decide to do to my son's penis when he is born?"  Then people answer that question.  Obviously you've gone off topic but the post above was a direct response to that question.  Glad I've cleared that up for you.[/quote]
No.  The person quoted above started by saying "Why do I care?  I care because it is an inhumane practice to do this routinely to newborn boys."  That would have been an answer to the question.  The topic starter didn't ask, "How does it make you feel to see an circumcised baby penis?", now did she?

But then the respondent proceeded to include four or five paragraphs describing not WHY she cares, but HOW she cares, and how it makes her feel.  Well, that's not WHY, is it? The reason it's funny is because it makes her sound as if she believes her feel[/quote]

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