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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I didn't want to change my mind. When we discussed it prior to marriage he said he would really like me to take his last name. He grew up with a single mom who had her maiden name and he and his brother each had the last name of their (different) father. [/quote]

[quote]Having a wife and kids with his last name felt like family unit to him.[/quote]

Your husband doesn't feel his mother raised him in a family unit, because she didn't ensure they all had the same surnames?

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Obviously there was a lot more going on than different last names. Don't be obtuse. [/quote]

And same surnames would solve the family unit problems how?

Give us some examples of broken family unit problems that are resolvable by giving everyone the same last name. [/quote]

I didn't say it would. I'm not saying anyone should or shouldn't change their name. I simply shared my own experience. After talking about it I decided it meant way more to him than it did to me. So I changed my name. That worked for us. It doesn't mean everyone has to do it. [/quote]

Your husband is fundamentally insecure, that’s not anybody else’s problem.[/quote]

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