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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find the responses saying some people see providing food for your kid as an act of care and love and some just don't as...kind of crazy making! Not EVERY bite has to be lovingly prepared and served hot and to a kid's tastes. People who eat cold breakfasts and quick lunches themselves aren't less caring parents. They just don't see every meal as a big event.

I sometimes make veggie muffins for them to eat in the mornings, or help them pour a bowl of cereal. I don't love them any less because I don't make them pancakes, eggs, and bacon DAILY. They get cold sandwiches for school lunches. Hot breakfasts and lunches are squarely a weekend treat in my book, I was raised that way and never thought it meant my SAHM didn't love me. I was also fixing my own breakfasts by high school.

I also think OP is letting her daughter be way too precious about dinners. She thinks vegetable based meals are "disgusting," really? The dad is making what sound like home cooked and healthy meals and instead of being scolded for calling them disgusting, the dad is at fault? My kids would also love to eat pasta, pizza, and meat for dinner every night! But guess what, we often cook Asian food involving mainly tofu and vegetables, or occasionally fish. They often won't eat it, one kid won't even eat plain rice. They can have plain bread, yogurt, and fruit to keep from going hungry, or if they're lucky they can have a bowl of microwaved leftovers if there's something in the fridge, but I'm absolutely not cooking chicken because they won't eat tofu, or allowing "vegetables are disgusting" to keep us from serving vegetables. Being an athlete isn't an excuse, she's not being starved, she's just picky! [/quote]
Why would you purposely cook a dinner your children won’t eat? This is bizarre. [/quote]

I'm not doing it AT them! I'm also not going to give up rice, tofu, and vegetables for 18 years because they're picky. These are normal foods that were staples of our adult diets before kids. [/quote]

A nice big salad is a staple of my "adult diet." My elementary schooler is not going to eat a salad for dinner, he just won't. Do you think I should make salads for us, even though I know he doesn't like it? It's a normal meal, right??? [/quote]

Yes, you should keep giving your child salad. Is this a serious question?[/quote]

Yeah I'll l cut the stuff into strips (carrots, peppers, cucumbers, the lettuce ribs) into strips and let my kid dip them in ranch or hummus but I absolutely serve my first grader salad for dinner.  It's weird you wouldn't even try.

I took my kid Germany (my family lives there) and he didn't love everything he tried but he did try a bit of everything and found new things he liked.  And he's 7, not 17.[/quote]

This is a teenager who is old enough to cook for themself not a 7-year-old.[/quote]

Which is my point.  If my 7 year old doesn't get special meals, why would a 17 year old who could just cook for herself.

Again, literally every book on toddlers specifically says NOT to make special meals for them and to serve them what the family is eating.  Why is a 17 year old girl expected to be catered to more than a baby?[/quote]

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