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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with a PP who said that the "debate" is really not something related to the real life experiences of 99% of families. And if you add in the need for the potential SAHM to have family money or having hit the Lotto jackpot, it's even closer to zero.

The problem comes when somebody doesn't do the math and isn't willing to face the reality that you can't actually live a UMC life on one UMC salary in a major city and put 3 kids through college, especially if you didn't come from money and have to make your own down payment on a house and pay off student loans.

The other problem comes when things fall apart and the woman then claims she gave up her career to be a SAHM. 7/10 the women who agree to be a SAHM were NEVER going to earn enough money to support themselves at the level that their high earning spouse did. There just aren't that many women who enter marriage with the same earning power as their husband. I have a law degree from a T14 law school. I don't think even one of the male students in my class married a woman with the potential to earn what he could. The wives were all artists, school teachers, non-profit administrators, or just had random office assistant jobs. I only know of one marriage between two law students. [/quote]

A large number of the lawyers at our firm are married to other lawyers. About half of them end up having one stay at home, and its not always the one who was earning the most. More money isn't the same kind of motivator when you have more than enough.[/quote]

Yeah that PP is detached from reality. T5 law school grad as is my DH and most of our social circle is lawyers married to lawyers or other professionals. Those were the people we met in our 20s in school and work and big cities. Yes people made various career choices along the way and after having kids and not everyone has the same earning potential. But I don't know any peer attorney who married a "random office assistant." [/quote]

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