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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We recently acquired a vacation home. We are not renting it out. We let BIL use it once. Now he wants to go again.

Do you let your family use your home whenever they want?

We won’t be there and not use it for at least another month.[/quote]

We let trusted close family and friends use the house if our immediate family isn’t using it. My sister and her family/friends left the place trashed and with weird damage once so they’re not allowed over unless it’s an extended family retreat.

We usually ask for $525/week to cover utilities and property taxes/wear and tear (regardless if it’s peak or non peak season). Yes our house is empty a lot of the time and walking distance to the beach - no you can not just stay there for free indefinitely. [/quote]

This is how we approach it.  Close family and friends can stay, but can lose the privilege if they aren't considerate or respectful.  Thus far, it hasn't been an issue.  Have never had to ask, people always offer the cleaning fee.  People also always feel very bad about any damage they do (which has been minimal) and offer to pay to repair it.  Depending on what it is, we sometimes take them up on it.  [/quote]

This is what we do as well. Only one set of ILs are on the blacklist and it’s because they caused $X,XXX in property damage and were generally disrespectful leaving their trash and old food to rot indefinitely at the house.

Everyone else we let stay has been perfectly normal and respectful.[/quote]

Have you told them they are on the "blacklist?" I guess I am just nonconfrontational. We only allow people to stay when we are there. I can't imagine telling a family member they can never use the house again.[/quote]

Our entire extended family knows why they’re blacklisted.

For context: SIL and her family stayed at the house for a week and MIL/FIL stayed at the house three weeks later. When MIL/FIL entered the house, it was trashed and looked like someone had broken in and been living there. Plus it smelled so bad (due to rotten moldy food) that they thought someone was dead inside the house so they called the police…

In the end, it was just SILs family who left the house trashed beyond belief. They knocked a sliding shower door of its aligner, cut open a screen window and broke a storm window to get back into the house after they had lost their key, let their kids draw all over the walls with markers, and left their old food, beer, liquor bottles, and other trash inside the house instead of disposing it at the dump on their way out of town. Never called me or DH to let us know about the damages or the lost key, they just left the house for us or the next visitors to find like that.

SIL might be the one in this thread now comparing us to the Queen of England because her family isn’t welcome back.

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I'd wonder if we have the same sister in law except my husband only has one sister.

No, he is not close to her, yes, she would still ask.[/quote]

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