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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Glad you had fun OP! I'm in my 30s and my husband and I have been doing the swinger/ENM thing for a few years now. FWIW the club scene was thrilling at first but the novelty of screwing strangers wore off quickly after a while. We have much preferred being part of an ENM community that we found through Feeld. You may find a similar community through the couples you met, but if not, I'd encourage you to look for it if it turns out that non-monogamy is your thing but anonymous sex isn't.[/quote]

Thanks for the input. I appreciate it. I am not sure where this journey is leading us, but I do imagine that over time going out to clubs will get tiring, just like when you're in your 20s and you tire of the regular club scene. I don't know that I'll ever be an anonymous sex gal, but we shall see. I would love for you to do an AMA on ENM. I feel like that is a step or 10 further than where Hubs and I are and I would like to learn more. BUT, I have no desire for multiple relationships/partners other than FOB. That sounds so exhausting.  [/quote]

We are still figuring out our boundaries with ENM, so not sure I'm ready to do an AMA on it. But that said, I use the term "ENM" intentionally because we are not polyamorous. We also have no desire for multiple relationships (at least at this point in our lives with big careers and little kids) - no time and we don't find the intro parts of dating to be all that enjoyable. Instead, we have developed this group of friends that regularly host parties at each others' homes. Sometimes they are larger with everyone, sometimes we organize smaller groups of 4 to 10 people. We've even met some single women through the group and had some enjoyable threesomes. The difficult part is that I, as a bisexual woman, get a lot more attention than my husband, a straight man. I have made some individual connections that I'd be interested in pursuing as FWBs, and even had a couple solo dates, but ultimately my husband has decided that he's not comfortable with me doing that regularly. I'm ok with that because my marriage is hands down the most important thing in my life, but it does result in some sexual frustration/disappointment on my part. But it's well worth it in the end - we've not only had amazing sexual experiences from this, but have made great friends too.[/quote]

Thanks for the thoughtful response. That sounds lovely, and like how I would envision an ideal situation (minus the bi for me part).[/quote]

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