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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again

I was trying to just sit back and absorb and try not to interfere with things that are not my decision, and just told him I’d be here for whatever he needed when he needs me.

This all just started Wed night and today Tuesday he just texted me she’s delivering now at (kindly) approximately 33 weeks

Baby will need to stay in the NICU for at least a week

I have no more words, maybe they were both in such shock it caused her to go into preterm labor

His father has put him in contact with a lawyer. I don’t know what for yet. I just presume that he’s still in shock and doesn’t know how he feels about anything but it’s definitely about to get very real now.

I just hope that the actual presence of a live infant will help both of them decide where they are going to fall on all of this emotionally. I still don’t know how her mom & grandma feel about it or even if she’s told them.

He doesn’t want me to be there just now.

I imagine you never know until you’re actually there how it will all feel. I feel so helpless. 
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Wow, what a crazy few days for your family.

In case it might help, I’d caution that it is likely the baby will need to be in the nicu for much longer than a week. My son was born at 34 weeks, and I was told to anticipate he wld go home the week of his due date! He went home a week and a half after he was born, but this was an extremely short stay and when I was pregnant with my second (who luckily was carried to term), by OB reminded me that if I delivered at 34 weeks, to expect a month long nicu stay as that is far more common.

It’s also possible that the pregnancy is further along, as it’s hard to date pregnancies in the third trimester, so maybe baby will fare better and truly be able to go home, wherever that will be, soon.

Good luck, and feel free to keep venting here.[/quote]

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