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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If OP's angst is about Christmas and getting ready, there is an expression, "Tradition is the tyranny of fixed expectations."[/quote]

I think that OP’s angst is that her husband expects her to do all of these things, but he doesn’t explicitly say it.  So she is left wondering how this got to be her job.

It’s kind of wild that so many people are telling her to just accept that it’s her job, calling her whiny, and giving her tips on how to be more efficient.  [/quote]

[b]Her husband does jobs [u]when asked[/u]. [/b]What difference does it make what he "doesn't explicitly say". She asks for a tree, he provides tree.

I swear some of you are determined to manufacture problems out of nothing.  [/quote]

Why does he need to be asked? He's an adult. OP is not the project manager.[/quote]

Seriously, why doesn’t that loser just read her mind?[/quote]

It’s reasonable to expect a parent to be able to plan a Christmas for children of a certain age. If he can execute, it’s possible if he was a single father he could plan something that wouldn’t be considered neglect.

Whether OP would accept this is an open question. Has she fantasized about being a mom during Christmas and doing mom things like shopping for wrapping paper and wrapping gifts and making homemade advent calendars?

Would the husbands plan absent these things be acceptable? I doubt he wants to shop for wrapping paper. He’d have the gifts shipped wrapped. [/quote]

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