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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If OP's angst is about Christmas and getting ready, there is an expression, "Tradition is the tyranny of fixed expectations."[/quote]

I think that OP’s angst is that her husband expects her to do all of these things, but he doesn’t explicitly say it.  So she is left wondering how this got to be her job.

It’s kind of wild that so many people are telling her to just accept that it’s her job, calling her whiny, and giving her tips on how to be more efficient.  [/quote]

It's kind of wild that she made it her job when nobody asked and now she's resentful at someone who didn't ask her to do half the shit she's so burned out from doing. She needs to stop wondering how this got to be her job. She made it her job. People are mostly telling her to quit and she's not doing that, which means she continues to be complicit in her own unhappiness, and whining about it.

If you don't want feedback you might not like, don't post your drama on the open internet.[/quote]

I suck at buying gifts, so somewhere along the way my DH made that HIS job.  He asks me to wrap them, which I do.  He also asks me to do the stockings, which I do.  He doesn’t act like a martyr.  If he didn’t get the presents one year, of course I would figure it out and do it, but it wouldn’t be as good as when he does it.  Not because I’m being purposely incompetent- but because I’m being genuinely incompetent.

FWIW we have zero drama over this arrangement.[/quote]

At least some of the people reporting mental load issues are resentment addicted.  They will accept no reasonable solution to remove that needle from their vein.

This cant be most people. But some I think is very likely the case. [/quote]

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