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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you call "schmoozing", unmarried aunts might call "company." Being elderly is lonely.  Yes, it's nice that you've visited for all these years 1-2x a year, but [b]if SIL calls once or twice a week every week and chats away with them....well, I'd leave her money, too[/b].  That's legitimately kind and thoughtful.

Is there a chance that they legitimately feel closer to her than to you or your brother?[/quote]

You’d leave her money too or leave her, and only her, all the money? [/quote]

One aunt is leaving some money and donating the rest. Seems nobody likes OP and her family here.[/quote]

That’s not clear today from what I read.

But there will definitely be a rift between the sibling families once this all goes down. And SIL, entirety and auntie know it, because they created it. [/quote]

There’s only a rift because OP thinks she’s entitled.

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And why is SIL entitled? [/quote]
Because aunt named her in the will as a beneficiary. Maybe that was a foolish decision; maybe it was a great one. She could leave her entire estate to her cat if she wanted to. It’s her money and her choice what to do with it.[/quote]

And the negative fallout will be as expected. 
You can’t keep that a secret.

Ask any estate or family law attorney what happens in the few non obvious cases things are not decided equally, especially in small American families. [/quote]

These siblings are not close. Their primary responsibilities are to their own families. It won't matter at all in the long run.[/quote]

We don’t know that, but we do know they won’t be for much longer! 
OP can always laugh it off and stay busy, but know they chose to passively or actively screw them out of at least one person’s will.[/quote]

They can’t be screwed out of something that isn’t theirs. [/quote]

That’s some twisted illogic for playing favorites and screwing over someone.

The ONLY way to not screw over your next of kin is to give everyone who’s not a felon or addict or primary caretaker equal parts. Could be zero for all, could be a pro rata for all.

Anything else will cause issues. The aunt, uncle, brother and SIL know that, but hope to not be confronted now or later. That’s their bet. [/quote]
It’s a shame that a couple gossips couldn’t keep their traps shut. OP didn’t ever need to know about this.[/quote]

Unless OP is an idiot, what was the family going to say when the aunt passes, a death certificate is issued, stuff needs clearing out, retirement accounts need administering, the will is read, etc.?

Oh nothing to see here? See you later.?

OP and everyone would know then. Would SIL turn around and lie?  Oh, I think everything’s going to the Smithsonian zoo, oh well! [/quote]

OP shows up at the funeral with her hand out?

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SIL flies in for the funeral to pocket everything and lie about it? [/quote]
SIL is under no obligation to make any financial disclosures regarding aunt’s estate to anyone but the probate court. She doesn’t need to tell any lies. [/quote]

Lies of omission are indeed lies, especially amongst two siblings.

If this scenario is true (executor, 100% inheritor), it will permanently damage the brother / sister and their families’ relationship.

You cannot deny that. [/quote]
🙄 Normal people don’t consider keeping one’s personal finances private counts as a lie of omission.

The only reason why any of this is causing any strife is because other people in the aunts’ lives are spilling the tea on their estate planning — which isn’t everyone’s business and isn’t a nice thing to do. One of the people doing it is the man an auntie divorced in the last few years. Think the guy likes creating drama in his ex’s family???[/quote]

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