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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men who do that are so in denial that they would never give you a straight answer here. Most won’t even see themselves as having walked away.
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This. These are the ones who will swear their crazy wife "turned the kids against him."[/quote]

My dad walked away (or more accurately, cheated, mom divorced him, we never saw him again).

It is simultaneously true that he was a narcissistic jerk who was in denial about doing anything wrong, and that mom denied him access and turned us against him. (Her rage against him was boundless.)

Both mom and dad were deeply flawed people. As are many people.

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Even in this scenario, I would consider your dad walking away. I’ve seen men  always blame the ex as a reason why they don’t see the kids, but they almost seem relieved to have a someone to blame that and a socially acceptable reason to go back to being bachelors.

[b]The truth is, that if he had wanted the kids, he would have fought for you. He was only willing to do it if your mom facilitated and supported the father relationship like a wife[/b]. Even in the best of circumstances, that does not happen after a divorce. [/quote]

Yes. I would never trust a man who says  “oh, my ex-wife is crazy” then explains his minimal level of custody. If the mom is crazy, get your kids the hell out or step up and at least do 50% custody.

I have only one man I know who is raising his kids at more than 50%. And, within two years he is married to his second wife who is very involved in taking care of his kids/her step-kids.

Men rarely get full custody.  You can observe the situation and talk to others.  It’s not always the man’s fault.  I hope you don’t have boys given how much you hate me.  
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