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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adult life is about having acquaintances, not deep "best friend" type friendships. By the time you have your own family, that's where the focus is. It's nice to have a lot of acquaintances, though. What most people on this thread describe as not "real" friends seem like perfectly good friendships for an adult with a spouse and kids. "I have some other moms I'm friendly with and some people who I go to bookclub with or participate in the same hobby, we go on walks -- and yet they're not real friends." Yes they are. You need casual companionship and won't ever have a childhood or teen or college dorm type best friend again. If you did, that would be weird.[/quote]

+1.  Also in college, part of the friendship was being completely open about who you were.  As you get older, you are not as open.  Perhaps the issue is your marriage and you don't want to share details without knowing the person would "get" it.  Perhaps your husband is having a hard time at work and that is affecting the household.  But you don't want to reveal because it's about your husband and his job. Maybe your kid is having a hard time, etc.  The point is, there are so few confidence that are just ours as we get older too.[/quote]

That is so sad to me. You don't have any friends you could discuss your marriage and children with? That idea is so foreign to me. My friends and I all rely on each other and listen and support each other with everything we're going through. What a depressingly isolated way to live if you don't talk to people about your life! And I'm an introvert, by the way.[/quote]

Isn't your loyalty to your spouse and DC? You feel ok talkimg about them behind their backs?[/quote]

What a weird question. What do you mean about loyalty? I can't talk to my best friend about something I'm dealing with regarding my husband and children because I'm not allowed to say anything about them behind their backs? When my husband is having a hard time with something at work I can't ask my friend what I could do to support him? When my kids are struggling with something at school I can't talk to my friend about it? [b]What a sad life you must lead if you feel that way[/b]. [/quote]

Why so mean? You're hardly a poster child for the happy life, PP. [/quote]

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