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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get hit on everywhere I go, but I get enough comments and compliments from strangers of the kind I would describe as "getting hit on" even if they're fleeting moments on the street and no one is asking me out or asking for my number. I'm not a great beauty, but I have a good figure, pretty hair, and a "pretty enough" face. Nowadays a lot of the comments are not the crude, obvious leering kind, but more restrained comments. I'll give a few examples:
-older, dapper Black gentleman in a hat, downtown. Gives me an appreciative look as we walk towards each other, smiles, tips his hat, says "that's a very pretty dress you're wearing." I get a fair bit of that kind of interaction: guy checks me out, nods or smiles, says "nice coat", "great hair", "beautiful dress" etc.. Maybe I just dress really well and gusy in the area are very fashion aware...
- as I jog by, random guy checks me out and says "nice form, keep it up"
-younger guy asks me to dance and, while dancing, bashfully says "respectfully, you seem like an older woman, but you are very good looking" (this one really cracked me up)
- the friendly manager at a regular work lunch spot (now closed) who, almost every time I went would make some part of my lunch "on the house" (this was a running joke with my work colleagues who'd go with me and never got anything for free; they used to call him my "boyfriend")[/quote]

I don't want to be rude, because I genuinely don't want to hurt your feelings, but I feel like you need a wake-up call.

All of these examples are classic attention seeking behavior... not men complimenting you out of nowhere. 
In all of these examples, you showed those men that they were welcome to talk to you.

The vast majority of women will wear at least one or both AirPods (or something similar) while jogging/running in order to avoid unwanted attention or hearing come-ons from men who are total [u]STRANGERS[/u] to them.

If you can hear these comments, it's because you're actively listening for them — the same goes with making eye contact with every guy that's walking toward you.

What you're doing is classic attention-seeking behavior.

I understand why you do it though, truly. 
As we age, it's difficult to come to terms with not feeling as attractive as we once were (especially for women whose value has always been tied to their looks).

However, most women eventually move past the need for constant attention because it broadcasts to men how desperately you crave their attention and validation still.

That's why they do it. 😕

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I’ve seen a lot of crazy posts on DCUM, but this might take the cake. Jogging without airpods is attention seeking behavior. Unhinged. There is absolutely no way you have ever touched grass before. [/quote]

It made me laugh as well because you are supposed to make eye contact with men while jogging. It personalizes you and reduces the predatory factor:

Be AWARE of your surroundings at all times and trust your INSTINCTS.
Stay in well lit, populated pathways. Avoid shortcuts.
[b]Walk with your head upright. Make eye contact. [/b]Thieves often target victims who are not paying attention to their surroundings or who are looking down.
Pay attention to your surroundings when using electronics on the streets, subways & buses.[b] Don't TUNE yourself out.[/b] DON'T WALK AND TEXT.

https://publicsafety.columbia.edu/crimepreventiontips

It is like the poster is seeking to make women victims. [/quote]

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