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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I agree with a lot of what you said in your original post, but your example of his mom asking about how he is tired when you aren’t around?  You are 100 percent over reacting.  I imagine it’s your hormones and stress.  There is absolutely nothing, and I mean nothing, wrong with a mother asking her son how it’s going, is he tired, etc etc and yes, that includes asking when you aren’t around.  Given the tone of your posts, I really do get the feeling she couldn’t win either way and I suspect she is on eggshells around you and that’s why she didn’t ask about your rough pregnancy.  Maybe you could try resetting the tone of your relationship by letting go of your animosity and focusing on the joy of this baby.  Open up to your MIL, be friendly and warm, and ask questions about her day - I.e., treat her the way you would want to be treated.  See if the dynamic between the two of you changes over time.[/quote]

I guess I felt like she was with us all day then all of a sudden when I’m out of the room she decides to ask her son if he is tired etc..like she only wanted to hear from her son instead of asking how both moth and dad were adjusting to everything. Like she wanted to ask him separate from his wife. Like does she think he would tell his mother something he wouldn’t tell his own wife?[/quote]

She probably only wanted to hear from him if he was tired. Why would you answer for him? If she asked if he was hungry would you feel the need to answer that too? Is your husband allowed to speak for himself or does everything have to go through you first?[/quote]

I guess I’m not understanding why she wouldn’t want to check up on the mother of her grandchild as well who is also her DIL. Does only her son’s well being matter?

Why couldn’t it be asked as us as a couple, “hey how are you guys feeling being first time parents.”

I mean after all she was in my home and she couldn’t even ask about me. That’s like basic manners 101.

I find it incredibly odd to go to my MIL and FIL’s house and only show concern for one of them and not the other.

I also find it odd to ask about your son but not your DIL as well when you have always had a good relationship with your DIL in the past and see her quite often. This isn’t like I’m a DIL she doesn’t know real well.[/quote]

Maybe you looked perky, beautiful, glowing and like you had it all together? And he didn't?[/quote]

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