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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand why so many people are defending Hilary. She was awful in that episode. Granted, she is reeling from discovering her husband's affair and then finding out about the pregnancy (and then finding out it's Mercy). So yes, some grace. But some of how she treats Puri is obviously really gross and I think it's very strange people are defending it:

The worst thing she does is drag Puri into that fight with her husband. That scene was so cringeworthy to me. Hilary *demands* that Puri stay for the fight even though David asks her to leave them and it's obvious Puri feels uncomfortable (who wouldn't?). But then Hilary specifically uses Puri in the fight, telling David that it's the "Hong Kong curse," that men come to Hong Kong and are waited on hand and foot by women like Puri and it ruins their marriages. She literally points at Puri and calls her David's "servant" (I mean, she is a servant but there's a reason they are called helpers instead -- no one wants to be pointed at and called servant). And then Hilary lists things Puri does for David as though this is the reason they are having marital issues. It's really, really gross, and viewing that scene from Puri's point of view made me really dislike Hilary.

The fact that she then basically orders Puri to spend the evening drinking with her because she doesn't want to be alone makes it even worse. It's very clear that this is not something Puri and Hilary have ever done together or that Puri feels comfortable with. It's definitely a weird boundary violation because while Puri is there to help them, Hilary here is looking for Puri to be her friend and confidant, which really should be outside Puri's job description.

The fact that in the morning Hilary appears to forget that Puri has the morning off for her competition is just kind of icing, and I am not surprised that Puri didn't feel comfortable saying "actually, you said I could take the morning off" in that moment because between the fight with David, the general volatility in the household, and Hilary's kind of manic/overly intimate behavior the night before, I imagine Puri feels like she needs to tread lightly.

I can't imagine watching that episode and thinking Hilary was "kind" to Puri. Why, because she does her makeup and insists Puri puts on one of her designer gowns? Puri didn't want to do that stuff in the first place and Hilary wasn't doing it out of kindness, she was doing it because she was desperate for intimacy and connection and was using the woman in her employment to fill that purpose for the time being. It's understandable Hilary felt that way but that doesn't make it right or good. That whole sequence of events sucked for Puri.[/quote]

100% thought the same.  And her laying in bed whining and crying like a baby while ordering her what to make her for breakfast was just awful after the prior night and agreed upon day of the competition.

She is a very self-centered woman.  Even David also pointed this out multiple times. The way [b]she ordered the bartender around too in a nasty tone about the lipstick on the glass--cutting David off completely[/b].  Very much entitled
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Wut? That glass was disgusting. She asked for another in a perfectly reasonable tone. You wouldn’t bat an eyelash at a man making that request. She didn’t cut David off entirely - she noticed something gross and made a comment - the conversation could easily resume. The amount of Hilary-bashing in this thread is insane. Meanwhile there is the only occasional mention of how totally awful David is. In my book the only reprehensible thing Hilary did was lie about the birth control - that’s bad! But all these interpersonal interactions that posters are blowing out of proportion are really NOT.[/quote]

I agree. I think she is seen as being difficult, when she is just assertive in a normal way. David is a sorry excuse for a man. Fwiw in the book the dynamic was very different: Hilary was more complex and nicer, and David a true piece of shit seen as such by all. [/quote]

David is also terrible, it's just the most recent episode didn't feature him as much. But here: he's a whiny little manchild who made a giant mess and now wants someone else to clean it up. Also him taking the espresso machine was petty and stupid. There, you happy?

None of this changes the fact that Hilary literally pointed at Puri and said to David that having "a servant" who makes you coffee and takes care of your needs is the reason their relationship sucks (when in reality their relationship sucks because they are both narcissists who are unwilling to actually care for each other or put their egos aside in order to build a life together). And THEN demanded that Puri keep her company all night.

Gross gross gross. If you want to defend Hilary, defend that. I think some of you identify with her, maybe because you've also had crap husbands or maybe because she's a career woman who is "assertive" (I actually think she's incredibly entitled and often passive-aggressive -- an assertive woman would not lie to her husband about her birth control situation so that she can play both sides of the "should we have kids" debate -- more gross Hilary behavior). You are overlooking concrete, awful behavior from her. The fact that David is also terrible in no way justifies Hilary's behavior. They deserve each other, frankly.[/quote]

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