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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Middle school is the prime time for children, and girls especially, to be worried about fitting in and physical status symbols are a part of that. Bullying is worst at that time. I have never been really concerned about what people think or fitting in with the cool girls, but even I was desperate for a pair of the status jeans in middle school. My mother eventually gave in and got me a pair. So for your daughter, if it’s not the Stanley mug, it would be a specific jacket or shoes. It’s not really about the mug, but dealing with tween insecurities which is normal developmentally.

So I would get her one, but I like the idea of having a chore list to “earn” it. [/quote]

“If it’s not the Stanley mug, it would be a specific jacket or shoes.”

That commenters advice is to give in and get the Stanley mug.

Sure, and where does it stop? What’s the next trend you’ll be manipulated into giving in to? Shoes, jeans, makeup, car …? If she wants things so badly, have her earn them. And stay within your budget. And if there is whining or guilt-tripping involved, then she needs to know it’s an automatic NO, not even if she earns it.[/quote]

But why take some kind of hard line stance against trends? It’s a meaningless stand that is only going to hurt your kid. yes budget is important. If it’s REALLY not in your budget to buy your kid a Stanley water bottle I’m sure they know that. They can buy it with their own money or earn money from babysitting, chores, or a job if they’re old enough.

But even if you think the trend items are stupid, they are clearly important TO YOUR KID. I don’t dismiss stuff that’s important to my kid even if it’s very blatantly silly kid stuff. Middle school is prime time for conformity and fitting in, like it or not. And if a silly water bottle is going to prevent her from being a victim on this one little issue, isn’t it worth it? [/quote]

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