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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I laugh at all these women who change their names.

Then they are carrying around a name of a man that despise after they divorce.

Married 40 years and never changed my name. Kids have my last name as their middle name.

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While your personal experience and your sister's are interesting, they're not the whole picture. Most women, about 85%, still choose to take their husband's last name. And about that idea that taking a last name increases the chances of divorce? Actually, studies don't back that up. In fact, there's no solid evidence saying that taking a husband's last name affects the likelihood of divorce at all. Each couple's situation is unique, and the decision to change a name or not varies based on many factors, not just the stability of the marriage. So, while your choice to keep your maiden name worked for you, others find different value in sharing a last name.[/quote]

I'm so happy not to be average! [b]My whole social circle too[/b]![/quote]

The 85% stood out to me because it is so different from my experience. I'm a millennial and know maybe 2 or 3 women total who changed their last name out of all of my friends from childhood and college. Largely UMC and graduate level education, which I suspected was a factor.

I was curious so I looked it up and found this from a recent CNN article/PEW research: https://www.cnn.com/2023/09/07/health/women-change-names-marriage-wellness/index.html
"About 9% of women ages 50 and older said they kept their last name, in comparison with 20% of women between 18 and 49, the survey showed. And 26% of women with a postgraduate degree said they kept theirs."

I kept my name and am in academia. I suspect it may be even more common to keep your name once you have a real publication record. FWIW our children have my husband's name and it has never been an issue. [/quote]

I understand that your personal experiences and social circle, including friends in academia, may have a more liberal and feminist leaning. This perspective is important and contributes to a diverse range of viewpoints. However, it's crucial to recognize that your specific demographic may not be representative of the broader population, especially when considering naming practices.

The 85% statistic, while a widely cited figure, reflects a general trend in the United States, where naming choices can be influenced by various factors, including cultural norms, individual values, and regional differences. Your observations within your more liberal and academic social circle are certainly valid, but they may not align with the overall statistical trend.

Ultimately, the decision to change or keep one's last name is a deeply personal one, and it can vary widely across different demographics and regions. Your insights are valuable in highlighting the diversity of perspectives on this issue.

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