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[quote=Anonymous]Trying to get out of "fog" of emotional affair myself.  Basically, three months after I stopped all contact with him it still sucks but sucks less and less each day.  The relationship wasn't good for him, me, or our families and would have only led to more frustration and unhappiness.  Despite knowing this and rationalizing why I am better off without him in my life, I still miss him and often wonder if he misses me.  I am hoping if I stay the course these feelings will fade with time.  I have no plans what so ever to contact him and don't want him to contact me.  I need space and time to heal and get over it.

This summer, I tried to focus more on my kids and reconnect with DH.  Making more one on one time to talk with DH has helped.  I am starting to see glimpses of the man I originally fell in love with.  I know most women would find him a catch (good looking, smart, financially successful, helps with kids).  It just over time we have become more like best friends than lovers.  We need to get to the point we connect more as a couple but I don't know how much he is willing to work with me to that ultimate goal.

I have also rekindled friendships with my girl friends.  Socializing more with them has helped to fill in my need to talk to someone about life stuff.

Exercising more has helped released the emotional tension that builds up.  When I am really frustrated and start thinking too much, I go for a 5 mile run.

May not be the best solution, but when I am having a real bad day, alcohol has helped.  I don't get drunk or anything but a glass of wine or a gin and tonic does take the edge off when life sucks.

Looking back, I wish I never met the guy.  I definitely will steer clear of any male friendships in the future.  Everything started innocently but somewhere along the road the boundaries got blurred.  The temporary high of the relationship is not worth the emotional fall out that follows.  [/quote]

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