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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am a "victim" of my spouse's emotional affair.  I don't think it would do you any good to contact her.  The woman in our case KNEW all about the problems their "friendship" was causing - and just didn't give a shit.  I had an infant at the time.  I had my ex husband call her on the phone in front of me and explain that 1) I had found all the phone records and other evidence and 2) in order to try to save our marriage she needed to have NO contact with him.  They both ignored my putting my foot down, and our marital therapist's direction (to him) that he end contact.

We are divorced now.  My infant is growing up without her father.  The woman sees us (from a distance) regularly - although he didn't end up with her.  I'm sure she still does't give a shit.

Be careful about making demands and ultimatums, because wwhat do you do when they ignore you?  [/quote]

Not OP but a PP on this thread -

In life, you can only control your actions not the actions of others.  If your spouse is having an extra marital relationship, you only have two choices.

1) Accept/ignore/allow the spouse to continue the relationship.

2) Tell the spouse the relationship is a deal breaker and be prepared to walk if the relationship doesn't end.

So sorry for the PP above but I would imagine she is better off without a DH that wouldn't choose his family over the other woman.  That action he took speaks volume as to where his priorities are.  Hopefully, you are now free to find the love and commitment you deserve in life.

My dad had a physical affair and my mom gave him an ultimatum in which he chose the other woman.  My mom was a strong individual and couldn't live with a man who wasn't fully committed to her.  Years later, my dad regretted the choice he made and asked my mom to take him back but she liked her new life and independence.  Other men appreciated better what she had to offer and she didn't ever want to go back.  As a family, my mom, sister, and I were better off without him.  [/quote]

Yes, PP here, I am much happier and better off without him.  The way the whole think went down really sucked however.  [/quote]

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